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Mediation – A  Cost Effective Route to Divorce/Separation

Mediation – A better way to Divorce.

It is reality that nowadays between 20 – 40% of marriages end in divorce. Mediation can facilitate an easier less painful path to divorce or separation or assist in Reconciliation depending on individual needs.

Call 087 98 32 112 for mediator

The actual process of separation and divorce is relatively straightforward.

However, few couples manage to complete the process easily because they are scared, they don’t understand the process or they don’t know what the Courts will require for their separation or divorce, and their relationship can be highly emotional, lacking in trust or a battleground.

With mediation there are not two solicitors sending demanding letters to the  other solicitor, the process can be quicker, less expensive and less aggressive. Without doubt, Family Mediation provides an extremely valuable and necessary service for couples who want to obtain a divorce or separation.

However, mediation can seem a difficult process to sit down in a room with  the other party. Many times parties aren’t even talking to one another. This is where the mediator’s experience can help more than a solicitor’s in this particular situation. (That is not to say a solicitor cant help. They are  and remain your advisor and this role is not altered by a mediator) We encourage parties who are engaging in a separation or divorce at the outset to speak to the mediator until they are at their ease rather than speaking to the other party. Remember, you will have a trained professional there who will operate with guidelines for communication and thus discussions are kept under control. If at any stage you have difficulty the mediation can be paused. It is an informal process and works as the parties are not forced to enter into any agreement they don’t feel happy with.
With the mediator’s help you would both work through all the issues you need to in order to resolve matters  so the two of you can get through your divorce or separation as easily as possible.
Usually, the family mediator will see both parties together and will work out an agreement for the division of assets, spouse and child maintenance etc. All issues that are necessary for the preparation of a divorce or separation document will be dealt with by your mediator. When an agreement is reached, the mediator will prepare a document of what was agreed for each party.
DIY Divorce  or DIY Separation and Mediation ?
Once parties decide they want to divorce and perhaps do it themselves it is necessary for them to work out the terms of that agreement. Mediation with a trained mediator can help them achieve their goals. Once they have that agreement that is acceptable to both parties they can then proceed to commence a diy divorce.
Reasons to choose mediation to help you obtain a separation or divorce.

1. It is cheaper.

To get a solicitor to help with a divorce or separation in Ireland the legal fees can easily mount up to €7,500 depending on what  firm of solicitors you engage. With mediation money is saved quite simply as the parties go through all the necessary issues with the mediator and thus all issues are ironed out without the usual costs associated with solicitors corresponding with the other side.

2. You are in control.

Mediation is completed as soon as the parties come to an arrangement. This can be a number of options such as a decision to reconcile, to divorce or obtain a separation. No judge decides the outcome you are in control.

3. You can still go to court.

Parties can still use the court system if they are not happy with mediation or it does not work out. Mediation is simply an alternative to this system & enables parties to decide how they obtain their divorce or separation.

4. It is confidential.

The mediator does not discuss your case and each party signs an agreement to keep matters in the mediation and not discuss them with others.

 

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CASE STUDY
A couple who were married decided get a separation. The husband had moved out shortly after the birth of a daughter. His wife was extremely hurt and upset that he was having very little contact with the baby. Although she did not want the marriage to continue, she did want the child to have a reasonable relationship with his father after the separation of the marriage.
In the course of their individual meetings, the mediator discovered that both parties feared for their financial future if they were to separate.
In the end, the mediator and the parties  managed to work out a settlement that was acceptable and practical for all. This was set out in a memorandum of understanding (separation document) that gave both parties certainty as to what their financial responsibilities were.

As well as having a financial resolution to the dispute, the additional results of the mediation were that the fear and animosity were diffused, the father had good contact with his child, and they were all able to move on with their lives after the separation (the parties ultimately got an amicable divorce).

We were engaged by a couple to help resolve their financial affairs, which were reasonably complicated with a lot of property.
Neither party felt as if the other ever listened to them. In mediation each party must feel heard and if a way forward is to be found it is necessary for each person to understand the other’s point of view. We managed to get them to agreement as to how things should be divided and I am pleased to say that, once they both knew what the future held for each of them, we could see the stress on each of their faces visibly reduced.

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